Dexter has now reached the “lovely” period of his babyhood where everything is a battle. We know it in English as “the terrible twos” and in Danish “trodsige 2”.. ! And OMG ! How does everything suddenly become so difficult? It literally takes nothing for him to go crazy bananas with me .. One moment he’ll be sweet and loving, and the next he’ll be full of rage, throwing a tantrum and laying on the floor screaming as if I’ve hit him ?! Maybe my memory is lacking, but I certainly don’t remember going through this with Sean.
I really feel like I have to be extra tentative and my patience is definitely being tested. I don’t exactly love the fact that my little happy boy is constantly dominating every situation and acting like a monster… If he doesn’t really feel like getting his diaper changed, it becomes the most complicated task ever ending with his shit being literally everywhere.
Being a mother of two now, I’ve found, with time, that I need to choose my battles. That’s just how it is, but I do need to remind myself to take a breather once in a while.
I don’t always have too much extra energy to deal with issues, and at times I feel like a crappy mother for getting irritated with him, when he’s acting like a brat.
Sometimes – specifically as of lately – I need to just make space for him to act out, without me saying anything, cause if I didn’t we would be having incidents all the time, and just the thought of it has me exhausted.
I know I am a good mother, and that I’ve raised Sean to be a good boy. He’s sweet, polite, respectful, and he speaks well too, and that hasn’t come out of nothing. Yet sometimes I wonder if it’s ever gonna be like that with Dexter, or if he’s just gonna always be my little naughty kid, who will get in trouble with me every now and again.
Now of course I’m starting to feel bad for calling him difficult, cause he honestly is a lovely kid most of the time … This is luckily just a phase, but it is a tough one!
The good thing with all of this however, is that I’ve of course Googled it, and apparently his behavior is totally normal! He’s simply developing his “mind”/”id”, and simultaneously learning a lot of things in that little head of his ;)
On top of this, Dexter has turned 2 and he has not begun to speak yet, so this makes him even more frustrated, because he can’t seem to express what he wants and needs. This is also why it is expressed so fiercely in his behavior and his tantrums (sometimes he even begins acting out physically).
Do any of you guys have a child in the 2-year-age, who hasn’t begun speaking yet, and sometimes acts out physically?? I think it’s really hard to handle sometimes. I easily get really frustrated because I don’t know how to deal with it.
I also understand him – obviously it’s not fun to not be able to communicate your thoughts, but screaming and squeaking noises for all forms of communication, constantly, becomes a bit tiring to listen too throughout an entire weekend. I can’t do much other than telling him off when he begins to hit, and teaching him how to pet/pat people instead, but it’s hard!
Sean turned 9 this February, and this of course means he’s constantly changing and going through phases as well – I can really feel how he’s becoming a big boy now. He wants to play tough with his friends, he talks back at me and he doesn’t pine for me as much anymore. It’s always much more fun with the boys, and it’s annoying whenever mommy has anything to say! However, he’s still adorable, and I don’t blame him for testing my limits once in a while. I try to remind myself not to take my annoyance with Dexter out on him, while we’re going through all of this change…
So those were some of my mommy thoughts… There’s never a phase like the last, and there’s always more to learn as a mom. It takes energy and strength, which one sometimes lacks a little of … I’ve found it helps me to speak up about it, and to admit when I’m not feeling my best… Anyways, I hope you’re all enjoying a wonderful Sunday!